Disrupted plans

Sometimes, maybe more than sometimes, or maybe it just seems that way, our plans get disrupted by forces beyond our influence. Such forces can include natural disasters, poor timing, temper, the ‘I really don’t feel like its,’ and the weather. All of these reasons are valid ones to cancel your participation in an event, large or small, or for you to cancel the entire occasion if you’re the one in charge. It’s even perfectly OK, and even understandable, to cancel or postpone things you are not ready for yet, perhaps a one-on-one conversation with a loved one. It is important to not get mad , especially at anyone, when an event is canceled that you really wanted to attend or that you had spent a lot more than money on. If there is nothing to be changed about the circumstances, there is no point in beating one’s head against a brick wall, knowing you are going to have bo effect whatsoever on what you are mad at or frustrated by. Better to take those energies and direct them to an alternative activity, one that is not only a substitute, but one you may ultimately find more enjoyable than the first. Isn’t it better to look away from a lost opportunity toward possibilities  than rant and rail at the lost one?

Support

When little things get us down, or when big things get us way down, we all can do with a little support. Or a lot. Asking for support doesn’t mean we are incapable or incompetent; asking for support can mean that we want some encouragement, a place to vent frustrations and furies, or request some specific kind of task be done. We cannot live alone in a vacuum and expect to accomplish all that we set out to do. Inevitably what we do will affect others and to be effective we must have contact with others to encourage us or to mentor us to help us along the way. Having support when we are emotionally vulnerable is a necessity, no matter how loudly we may choose to deny it, we cannot suffer in a void and expect to survive intact without the support of at least one individual, and preferably, support from a network. Though we might want to avoid many of those at work or in other required places we find ourselves, again, we cannot go on and on, day after day, in a place without some kind support right there, on the spot. Support is not an unbearable thing, support can be a comfort and a refuge, it can alleviate disappointment and applaud success. Why not take or request support when you need or want it?