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Photographs; & questions you wouldn't think to ask yourself…



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There are times when narcissism can be a good tool for survival or pleasure. You focus on yourself and are able to make good decisions and to protect yourself from mental or physical harm. People may admire the self-confidence and belief in yourself that allows you to move in and out of varied groups easily and with aplomb. Others are drawn to you as to a shining light in the darkness and there always seems to be something going on when you’re around. These are all positive things that can come from a healthy admiration of self, but not so positive when admiration and confidence become single-minded concentration on your wants and needs alone. Making an effort to see the world around you and taking an interest in it can rescue you from the perils of narcissism. The down side to narcissism can be very down indeed so recognition of the fine line between it and healthy self-interest is  important. The distinction is very fine, but there, between safety and getting sucked into your own myth.

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Once you’ve lost that distinction you become lost in your own inner ponderings and forget that there is anything outside yourself. You’ll find that friends and family have left or turned their backs to you, as happened to the swan above.  All of us have a bit of Narcissus in us, but most of know when to stop insisting that everything be all about us. A bit of all about me is fine and can even help relationships with others, but you must let others have it be all about them as well if you want to remain tied to a healthy community of friends and family. One sided opinions and decisions made with only one point of view for input will be uninformed and out of balance. If you find yourself having a good laugh at your own expense, you probably don’t suffer this dread disease, but if you take everything just a bit too seriously, consider yourself always right, and trust only your own opinions, you might want to consider expanding your universe a bit. Would you like someone to tell you if you were exhibiting signs of narcissism?


Author: EllenphanPhotos

I've been struck many times by the thoughts that run through my head when I'm outdoors and contemplating nothing in particular. The thoughts can be profound or silly, sad or joyful, relevant or not. But they're always there. And with just a bit of concentration they can lead to the most astonishing places and on the most convoluted trails. Exploring those vagaries and jigs and jogs is fun. I'm attempting to find more of these trails to see if they lead anywhere or nowhere, because even nowhere is somewhere. The bits and pieces of the outdoors help to make the indoors survivable. Photos help bring the outdoors in and remind me of many of the thoughts I had while still outside, a very valuable tool they are, too.

2 thoughts on “Narcissism

  1. You bring up a good point, narcissism is neither good or bad… until it interferes with your relationships. Fortunately I have friends who are real, and have no trouble calling me out and vice-versa. Reality checks are a good thing.

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