Vigilance does more than protect someone close to you or keep others away from a special place. The positive side of vigilance leaves one energized and feeling good about oneself. The act of watching and protecting seems to intensify the feelings for the watched person or thing and invites a return of the those feelings. There can be some pretty lethal thorns among the prickles of responsible vigilance. though. The duty of the vigilant mother is to protect her child, not to smother her. The duty of the watchful teacher at recess is protect their charges from themselves and others, not to abuse them. The duty of a neighborhood watchperson is to keep that neighborhood peaceful, not to introduce violence to it. There can be errors made on the side of over-vigilance and under-vigilance both; it is difficult to know exactly where to draw the line when you’ve taken on a protective and watchful role. Vigilance can be harmful to the protector as well as harmful to the protectee. If you become over-vigilant you may become weary and inattentive and may even start to have negative feelings for people and things you formerly loved; and this can alter your moods and preferences. If you become under-vigilant not only may that indicate a change of feelings, but may also mean you’ve lost interest in and positive feelings about yourself. A happy medium is needed, a balance that you can maintain and still achieve the goal of protection and safety for the person, place, or thing you’ve committed yourself to. It could be helpful to carry a few questions around in your head and when it’s time to go into vigilant mode ask yourself: do I know why I’m doing this? do I feel capable of handling this role? is this role respected and appreciated? Or ask yourself anything that will allow you to focus on the why’s and wherefores before you begin or take up the job again. Should one be self-vigilant before taking on that role with anyone/thing else?