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There are many synonyms for co-dependent and all of them are correct to a certain extent. Synonyms themselves can be classified as co-dependent given their dependence upon words of the same species and meaning. Parasitic and symbiotic are the least used and most unappealing synonyms related to co-dependent but also the most correctly classified with the pathological forms of the term. There is a stigma associated with all three words that is not justified since they are merely used to describe an existing mental and/or physical state. It does not seem reasonable to stigmatize the terms or the co-dependents for something that everyone on the planet is part of at some time during each day. Co-dependents can be bugs and flowers, co-workers, sharks and pilot fish, and many other pairs or groups. Co-dependents can have minimal contact or have one living inside another’s body. Other words equivalent to co-dependent are mutually dependent, reciprocal, collaborators, interconnected, and attached. None of these bear a stigma, but all of them can be equated to their negatively profiled counterparts. Perhaps this is a way to define gradients of the pathology that is sometimes present with co-dependency and is a way that may help to alleviate negative symptoms. Although perhaps using such terms as definitions creates those negative perceptions rather than creating a desire to explore the specific situation and possible positive attributes to the co-dependent relationship. Being part of a co-dependent relationship can be a very positive thing for all parties, but more important is a realization from the start that co-dependency exists. With that knowledge and the knowledge of how to use that kind of relationship to the best advantage, being a co-dependent can be a positive, long-lasting experience. Don’t you think we ought to be able to manage our current and inevitable future co-dependencies so that they are positive ones?


Author: EllenphanPhotos

I've been struck many times by the thoughts that run through my head when I'm outdoors and contemplating nothing in particular. The thoughts can be profound or silly, sad or joyful, relevant or not. But they're always there. And with just a bit of concentration they can lead to the most astonishing places and on the most convoluted trails. Exploring those vagaries and jigs and jogs is fun. I'm attempting to find more of these trails to see if they lead anywhere or nowhere, because even nowhere is somewhere. The bits and pieces of the outdoors help to make the indoors survivable. Photos help bring the outdoors in and remind me of many of the thoughts I had while still outside, a very valuable tool they are, too.

2 thoughts on “Co-dependents

  1. I’m more of a parasite, especial when it comes to food.

    • Although most definitions of parasite are relatively negative in tone (and parasites can be negative), there are other definitions. For example: a person who received free meals in return for amusing or impudent conversation. This might be considered negative to some, but a worthwhile activity to others.

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