When one is all washed up and finding that it just might be too much effort to go on one tends to want to kick and stomp and yell about life’s unfairness. Although one may be admired kicking and stomping for a while the tantrum soon becomes something to be avoided by others. There can be a more graceful and dignified way to go about being unhappy at one’s state. Rational explanations and concrete facts about your state of being and state of mind will earn much more respect, help and company and these are the things we need most when we’re in extremis or in crisis. Pity will not accomplish anything visible or viable to help one emerge from serious or critical troubles. Sympathy will make you feel better able to cope and allows for a two-way street, where you can possibly assist your sympathizer in some way.
Upon reaching that point where it is patently obvious that there will be no further change in a critical position one must handle that position with dignity. When faced with unchangeable consequences one should allow all the help others are willing to give and give up on any stoicism one has exhibited up until this point. Many times our friends and family feel helpless in the face of serious or critical situations and want nothing more than to be able to offer some help or support. You are not giving in by accepting that help or support and it is really more dignified to accept offered succor with grace. Grace and dignity will appear in different aspects for everyone but never as rejection, whining, or contempt. Those who recognize and confront the fact of the fear and uncertainty of most things generally prefer to face that fear and uncertainty in company. Though it may hurt your pride, wouldn’t you rather accept your circumstances with grace and dignity?