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Pugnacity

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Sweet reason and soft words do not always bring satisfaction when one is in need of something quickly or must have something correctly done. sometimes a touch of pugnacity is the only way to get things done the way you’d like them to done in the time you’d like them to be done.. You may want something specific from someone in the service industry but cannot get anyone’s attention, you may be in the position of performing a task in a group setting and no one will begin or continue with the task, or you may need to insist that something of yours is private. In these situations passivity will not work as a strategy. You must make your expectations and you needs known and must emphasize them without being tentative or backing down. Your needs and desires are just as important as anyone else’s and fading into the background will not help you meet your objectives. You need not be combative, but may show your temper with restraint and make sure that what you’re driving for is very obvious and not unreasonable. A spirited presentation of your rights in a situation cannot be considered belligerent if you don’t make it so. Rather than sweet reason a bit of boldness will often gain you your chosen outcome. In fact, people may applaud you for your pluck and pugnacity instead of privately thinking of you as a pushover or an unimportant person. We all deserve to have our worthiness recognized but that recognition will not happen by stepping back and allowing your needs to be overshadowed by others. Sometimes it’s difficult to step forward instead and declare your position, but you will feel much better about yourself if you do. You will feel better if you speak up in defense and in favor of yourself and if that takes a small elevation in your voice or inserting yourself into a conversation then, within reason, that is what you should do. Going to extremes will lessen your chances to meet your goal so creating and maintaining a balance between tempered pugnacity and passivity is key to your success. Wouldn’t you rather be heard than to be ignored or left in the background?

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Author: EllenphanPhotos

I've been struck many times by the thoughts that run through my head when I'm outdoors and contemplating nothing in particular. The thoughts can be profound or silly, sad or joyful, relevant or not. But they're always there. And with just a bit of concentration they can lead to the most astonishing places and on the most convoluted trails. Exploring those vagaries and jigs and jogs is fun. I'm attempting to find more of these trails to see if they lead anywhere or nowhere, because even nowhere is somewhere. The bits and pieces of the outdoors help to make the indoors survivable. Photos help bring the outdoors in and remind me of many of the thoughts I had while still outside, a very valuable tool they are, too.

13 thoughts on “Pugnacity

  1. Absolutely…and I have gained courage in speaking up over the years..thank goodness

  2. I prefer to bitter and retroactive. So that nothing gets done. In my favor. Then I will be bitter about those people that don’t give me any credit.

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