Success is not winning. Success is not amassing a fortune or winning a scholarship. There are times when success doesn’t look at all like it is expected to or be what it is expected to be. Success is a slippery thing, a very intimate and personal thing even when it is publicly noticed and discussed. If you measure your success by what others think and say you may not be successful at all. You should be the only one that measures your success because you should be the only one that sets your goals and decides when you’ve accomplished them. Achieving so-called success when you have not been the one to set your goals will most likely leave you with an empty feeling or having pride connected only to the other person or group that has determined the direction of your life. To be in control of your own life’s direction and activities should be your ultimate aim and listening to or obeying outside influences taken as merely suggestions. One can feel in one’s head, heart, and spirit whether or not one has succeeded at an endeavor. When you don’t feel as happy as you think you should or feel downright let down or depressed when you’ve attempted and completed a task, you have not been successful but may have been working toward someone else’s ideas or plans for you. You must recognize your individuality and set tasks for yourself; doing even that can be considered a success. Once you’ve taken responsibility for your life and the decisions to be made about your life you can determine your own goals, tasks, and parameters for success. Once you’ve finished working on separation from outside influence, you’ve achieved the first success of your independent life and can look forward to many successes, large and small, all of which are significant. Doesn’t determining your own success strategy appeal to you?