Being confined is a sensation and experience we rarely feel comfortable with, though confinement can be a relief from responsibility and its stress at times. An inordinate amount of confinement exists only in our heads, but holds us just as forcibly as if we were living in a barred cage or a locked room. We create these shadow cells or more long-term prison cells from striving to meet expectations: our own assumptions and others’ make up the bars. In reality these bars are insubstantial as shadows or fluid as water; we have the ability to free ourselves at any time. However we must want to free ourselves before our created bars will melt away leaving us free to go on and living with no encumbrances. This does not mean that we should throw off all sense of responsibility, there are responsibilities that are inherent in some of the actions we’ve already chosen and it would be worse than negligent to ignore them once the commitment has been made. Being confined behind invisible bars or by shadowy constraints are a different matter; through paying attention, making a decision, and following through on our decisions we can eliminate these perceived confining elements and free ourselves up for more enjoyable and productive pursuits. A way to get to this first step is to be able to recognize these nebulous bonds; this requires an unbiased and clear look at what is keeping us confined in a certain place. That clear and unbiased look wouldn’t hurt, would it?