We may have gotten somewhat discerning about how we approach people and things through our experiences, but we can’t help being attracted to the new and beautiful and interesting. However, these things may hold dangers we are unaware of and we could get stung; These attractive and fascinating things may present new and different dangers along with their more appealing characteristics. This leads us to the conclusion that we should not leap unthinkingly into a relationship with persons, places, or things without making at least a cursory examination of them. Although it might seem embarrassing or even hurtful to show that we are not completely trustful of our immediate reactions, it is much better to feel silly or appear doubtful than to find oneself in a situation that has negative consequences or is harmful. Taking a few minutes to learn whether someone may be shallow or cruel; or finding an object safe or dangerous shows a thoughtful consideration of oneself that can only be seen as admirable. We can admire beauty from afar, we can admire animals in the wild from afar, we can admire powerful and famous people without scruples from afar. If we have confidence in ourselves and in our measured judgement we can keep ourselves safe and continue to learn. Learning and growing without harmful consequences is a reasonable goal to seek, isn’t it?