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Misplaced confidence


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We may have gotten somewhat discerning about how we approach people and things through our experiences, but we can’t help being attracted to the new and beautiful and interesting. However, these things may hold dangers we are unaware of and we could get stung; These attractive and fascinating things may present new and different dangers along with their more appealing characteristics. This leads us to the conclusion that we should not leap unthinkingly into a relationship with persons, places, or things without making at least a cursory examination of them. Although it might seem embarrassing or even hurtful to show that we are not completely trustful of our immediate reactions, it is much better to feel silly or appear doubtful than to find oneself in a situation that has negative consequences or is harmful. Taking a few minutes to learn whether someone may be shallow or cruel; or finding an object safe or dangerous shows a thoughtful consideration of oneself that can only be seen as admirable. We can admire beauty from afar, we can admire animals in the wild from afar, we can admire powerful and famous people without scruples from afar. If we have confidence in ourselves and in our measured judgement we can keep ourselves safe and continue to learn. Learning and growing without harmful consequences is a reasonable goal to seek, isn’t it?


Author: EllenphanPhotos

I've been struck many times by the thoughts that run through my head when I'm outdoors and contemplating nothing in particular. The thoughts can be profound or silly, sad or joyful, relevant or not. But they're always there. And with just a bit of concentration they can lead to the most astonishing places and on the most convoluted trails. Exploring those vagaries and jigs and jogs is fun. I'm attempting to find more of these trails to see if they lead anywhere or nowhere, because even nowhere is somewhere. The bits and pieces of the outdoors help to make the indoors survivable. Photos help bring the outdoors in and remind me of many of the thoughts I had while still outside, a very valuable tool they are, too.

6 thoughts on “Misplaced confidence

  1. I was in a very abusive relationship once, and I will not do that again. I learned the hard way (and that is an understatement).
    Recently, a lady told me that it is extremely difficult to know who is abusive; because, in the beginning of a relationship, everybody works hard to appear kind and thoughtful. People are often married by the time they find out that the other person is not who he or she pretended to be, and then it’s too late.
    My answer to her was this:
    From the beginning, it is relatively easy to discern who is unkind and uncaring. Look beyond the nice way that you are being treated. Take a long, hard look at the way he or she is interacting with other people and things. IF a person is very loving towards you, but extremely disrespectful or demeaning towards anyone or anything else, be advised—one day that will be you!

    • Unfortunately you’re only too right; and we don’t want to wait and evaluate when in the throes of a new attraction. But maybe we can learn from out bad experiences, and not get burned again. Horrible way to learn, though. I’m sorry for the trouble you went through and hope you now recognize the signs of a potential abuser.

  2. Very true. I have lived this. Won’t make that mistake again.

  3. Thanks for liking my Wordless Wednesday photo. It was taken before a big storm at Mesa Verde National Park.

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