Although we might not want it to be true, sometimes the only way to be heard or to be listened to is to kick up a fuss and demand your turn to speak or rant or rave. Others might have more charisma or be overpowering, but everyone is entitled to speak their piece, without interruption. The flip side of this is that you are required to listen to others’ diatribes, nonsense, or perfectly good sense without heckling or otherwise disturbing them. Without courtesy on both sides nothing worthwhile can be accomplished, just as without paying attention, nothing can be accomplished. When a group has reached such a stalemate and you have become discouraged and disgusted with the proceedings it is time to kick up a fuss and ask the other participants to take a look at themselves and their behavior. If the purpose of the gathering is to get something concrete done you may have the glimmering of a chance to bring people back to that purpose and make some progress with your goal. If your goal is more nebulous you may have more difficulty and need to throw up your hands and set a time and place for further discussion. If you are a rather retiring person this can be easy to think about but hard to follow through; the thing to remember is that once you’ve begun to kick up a fuss, it takes on a life of its own and can be of value with its surprise appearance. And it may be a great introduction to another side of yourself you didn’t know was there. Doesn’t kicking up a fuss feel good sometimes?