We must all have had the experience of someone responding incredulously to something we’ve said. This generally tends to make us go over in our minds what we did say, and whether or not we really meant what we said. Though why we should be questioning our statements is something to re-examine. Why shouldn’t we be examining their reaction to what we’ve said as well as trying to understand how we reacted. Reacting defensively or explaining away what we said or immediately running on about something else are merely knee-jerk reactions on our part. Either we should pay more attention to what is coming out of our mouths or we should not be paying as much attention to what others may think of our thoughts and opinions. The former involves consciously making our brains and our mouths act at the same speed and taking a moment to listen when others speak before crafting a thoughtful response. The second revolves around self-confidence and self-assurance. Both mean that we should be thinking before speaking, before giving inaccurate and negative impressions of ourselves to others, and having confidence and assurance in our words and actions, speaking from a strong position of knowledge. With thought and a bit of basic research we might find ourselves in the position of disbelief or dismay. Unless we are trying to be humorous. Would you rather be embarrassed or applauded?