Different kinds of relaxation and adventures offer different kinds of satisfaction. And grasping for all those different kinds of relaxation and adventure offers you that much more to enjoy and to learn. I’ll be gone for a while again, this time off on a boat. I’ll be back the middle of next week; have fun and stay safe… Doesn’t relaxation and adventure sound just right for the start of summer?
When we are young we tend to charge ahead recklessly and with abandon into every new experience. Then we learn that reckless abandon is not necessarily the way to approach all things. Once we have been burned, or fallen too far, or couldn’t get out of the water most of us go rather more cautiously after new experiences. For young people it can be a challenge to find a happy medium between too much caution and little or no caution since one cannot ask a mentor or parent for instruction. Boldness and caution are very personal and only the inner self can communicate the level of caution to employ in any given situation since boldness and caution are so variable in-depth and in their mae-up. Determining the levels of timidity and bravery should be a personal and conscious decision; this requires the ability to observe current conditions, to search inside oneself, and to apply one’s decision in a consistent manner. Thoughtfulness such as this cannot be employed during and emergency or crisis, but can be applied to almost any other situation: appearing or declining to appear in front of a group, buying or not buying a particular product, going on or passing by the chance to take an intriguing trip. All these require little or no risk and different levels of caution could be thought about and applied. Should caution be thought of and/or applied in virtually every situation?
Humans are all of one species, we will thrive in very different climates, cultures, and mental environments. But it can be seen that a person raised in one climate has difficulty in adjusting to another and may never do so; this inability applies also to culture and mental adaptation. Our environment is central to our well-being and the closer we come to living in an environment that matches our physical, cultural, and mental capacities, the happier and more well-adjusted we will be. When we are happy and well-adjusted we thrive and can grow and prosper. Unfortunately many of us cannot or are not willing to relocate to a place where they can thrive. One can look at this behavior as unreasonable if one is looking only at the well-being of one particular person, but one can never do that. Since we are social beings we must be in contact with our natural families as well as one or more other communities we belong to for support and pleasure. Everyone’s ideal environment is somewhat different so any given group of people will have some people contain some who are not in the best place for their physical and mental make-up. This confuses the issue, we may not know we could theoretically make a choice to find a place to thrive, and we may not want to if the others we feel close to might choose another place. Is it more important for us to thrive or is it more important to maintain our group identities?
We form many pictures in our minds of how we believe or want to believe the world really is. This helps us to make things around us look better, to make people we love seem more loving and kind, and to present ourselves differently than we really are. We generally forget, or never let into our consciousness, is that we are not the only people using this strategy; everyone sees things differently intrinsically and everyone strives to create or maintain the illusions already existing in their minds. What seems even stranger, stranger than everyone’s different perceptions, is that we mostly tend to and want to keep our perceptions to ourselves. We seldom talk about the shade of blue we’re seeing, or the background we behind a stand of flowers or behind the backlit form of an animal or bird, or even the bird or animal themselves. If we did speak from our perceptions it may be that myriad misunderstandings could be avoided and avoidable. What a change in society that would make…however we are inviolably individuals and therefore must be satisfied with our individual perceptions, though we could make a much stronger effort to take note of and ask about other people’s perceptions. Doing so might even lead to a more understanding world or town or school or family. Is there a reason we shouldn’t share more?
Once we’re more than completely dependent we begin wanting to grow up as fast as possible, while at the same time remaining young enough to have so cares or responsibilities. The games we play and the stories we make up all have us playing the part of adults, teens, or older children. Once we have become older, many times we’d like to once again have the characteristics of youth. What we don’t realize is that we don’t really grow up, we stay young in any number of ways, and still have the chance to ‘play’ at being a grownup in many different venues of our lives. When one has reached whatever age is considered adult in one’s society, there is still so much to learn. One must learn about being an adult, not reaching adulthood, and adulthood continues to have its own lessons until we reach middle age; then at middle age we begin to learn about being senior. At no one point in our lives do we approach being ‘all grown up.’ We must recognize this as true or we might begin to think we know everything when it is patently true we do not know everything, nowhere close to everything. Though it sometimes feels daunting that the growing task never stops; just as certainly, if we mistakenly assume we’re grown up, we will stagnate and never fulfill ourselves as humans. Never being grown up can be a relief, can’t it?
Anticipation can be felt and expressed in any number of ways, and we can anticipate many different things: we can anticipate an event or a gift, we can anticipate trials and tribulations, we can anticipate trends in our lives or on a global basis, and many more variations. Some of the easiest things to anticipate are those that we usually ignore or pay no attention to. For the most part we don’t anticipate our next bite of food during a meal, or how we’ll feel in the shower, or how perfectly our joints and muscles work when we take a step. These daily, small, frequent movements and motions are essential to our very lives but, except when they aren’t working correctly, they receive no attention from us. The small things can even help us anticipate the larger things; we know, but we seldom appreciate, that our eyes are going to be seeing those ocean waves we can hear (did we anticipate hearing that sound?) beyond the next dune (did we anticipate the muscular action our body would be making to climb that dune?). The combination of those many, many small anticipations create the larger ones and so make the act of anticipating itself one that can be pleasurable and add so much positive energy to one’s life that it is a shame to ignore it. Shouldn’t anticipation be enlarged by anticipating the small things leading up to it?