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Misfits

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04-30-13 012a

People may see another and put that other down as a misfit for any number of reasons including their looks, their attitudes, their actions, or perceived attributes and possessions they’ve displayed. What really is happening is that those making judgements are in the process of defining or maintaining their group identies. Everyone wants to feel comfortable in a community or a group and can be very diligent about screening others who may want to join their community. In the main, these inclusions and exclusions are very arbitrary and are made in no logical or with no pre-determined guidelines; thus those excluded tend to feel there is something wrong with them or that they are doing wrong and cannot discern what they are or are not doing to be rejected. While this makes the rejected one feel badly and lose self-esteem it makes the members of the group feel exclusive and more important. It is not wrong to feel important and to boost your own self-esteem but doing it at the expense of others is not honorable or fair to those others. Climbing over the backs of others to make yourself feel good or look good in the eyes of your own group could and should backfire on you and those grouped with or following you. Others should be judged, if you are going to judge at all, solely on their merits, not by superficial attributes or based on how you happen to feel that day. Shouldn’t we ponder before making a judgement?

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Author: EllenphanPhotos

I've been struck many times by the thoughts that run through my head when I'm outdoors and contemplating nothing in particular. The thoughts can be profound or silly, sad or joyful, relevant or not. But they're always there. And with just a bit of concentration they can lead to the most astonishing places and on the most convoluted trails. Exploring those vagaries and jigs and jogs is fun. I'm attempting to find more of these trails to see if they lead anywhere or nowhere, because even nowhere is somewhere. The bits and pieces of the outdoors help to make the indoors survivable. Photos help bring the outdoors in and remind me of many of the thoughts I had while still outside, a very valuable tool they are, too.

2 thoughts on “Misfits

  1. what do you do when you have to choose between betraying a friend and holding to ur principle in life

    • You must search your heart to find out if this person is really a friend, a part of your heart. If this person is a true friend there will be no conflict for your principles will echo each other.

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