From the time we were very young and throughout the rest of our lives we intuitively know when someone cares for us. At times that caring can be a burden that is hard to bear. We also know that if we made our displeasure known about the way that person shows their love and their caring, we could terribly hurt that person and possibly anger others. For the sake of all involved we try to accept that when we’re around that particular person we will make an exception and allow our space to be invaded, to listen to things about us we don’t believe and don’t want to believe, and to effectively become the person others believe, or want to believe, we are. Our good intentions and wish not to hurt someone are noble but, in the end, will not serve us well at all. We cannot be all things to all people and the weight of understanding others’ needs is heavy; it is a weight we need not and should not have to bear. It is important, most of all to us, that others see us and know us as we truly are, not as a reflection of themselves or a caricature of the role they believe we should be playing. If we begin to play along, we’re playing at being a person and not living our lives as ourselves. Wouldn’t like to remove the weight of being someone you’re not?