We have all asked, without making any effort ourselves if there is anything ‘out there’ for me. Whether it’s food or a piece of mail, a treat or a caress, even a word or two, we anticipate the answer being yes. We expect at least a response and with a response we have gotten part of what we’ve asked for since, though it wasn’t spoken, part of what we’re asking is to be noticed. If we look we’ll find that we ask the question from behind some kind of shield, whether it be peering from behind a door, while looking down at something in our hands, or while the person we’re asking is involved in something. Most times we don’t want the world or that one person to know that we are feeling needy, at that particular time or at all times, so we hide behind our shield and a commonplace question. The need to hide the need is comfort only to ourselves because it is patently obvious to the one we’re addressing. But in this culture it is necessary to appear confident and in control at all times even though that cannot be true the majority of the time. But also in this culture appearances seem to be the end all and be all. Shouldn’t we be presenting our real feelings and needs to the world instead of losing support by appearing to be what we’re not?