Being demure is all fine and good – as long as being demure doesn’t invade all aspects of your life. If your demureness leans to the reserved side of the definition you can still have the ability to stand up for yourself and your rights. If, however, your demureness toward the affected modesty side of the demure spectrum you may find you have a problem or two. When feigning modesty you may find yourself left behind during occasions or events you would really like to be part of as well as missing opportunities to interact with people you find interesting. Being reserved generally is a wait and watch position that can be changed at any time and is generally a true part of one’s personality. Affecting modesty is merely an act to bring attention to oneself. Shyness is a form of modesty that is also a part of one’s personality and usually not a wanted one; it is not affected, but can be a true barrier to longed for opportunities. It is almost always true that these very different aspects of being demure can be distinguished, that there is a place for each one, and people will react accordingly. Isn’t feeling demure more honest than affecting it?