Sometimes we just want to get away; away from our work, away from our play, and mostly away from people, even those closest to us. The proximity of everything and anything seems to be demanding our attention and our care. And sometimes we do get away – physically, emotionally, or mentally we retreat from the stifling, suffocating feeling of being surrounded by responsibilities and cares. It is valuable to remember, though, that these situations and the people involved with them are not specifically out to ‘get’ us; they want our help and support because we have been helpful and supportive in the past, possibly many times. We may be perceived as having invited their questions, emotional demands, and quest for knowledge, and we may have done so knowingly or unknowingly. We should step back and yes, maybe take a break, evaluate our part in being surrounded and possibly change our outlook on the situation, maybe embrace the situation and cope with it from a different side. For the most part people aren’t deliberately putting us in an untenable position, they are following the cues given them. So it is imperative for us to learn to, and set, boundaries that are effective and comfortable for us. This is not to say we are neglecting anyone or anything, it means that by setting boundaries we can be more effective in problem solving for us and for others. When the feeling of being surrounded overtakes us, shouldn’t we fall back and remember our setting of boundaries?