No matter how smooth and sleek or rough and crusty a person may look on the outside we should remember that what we see is not always what we get. Though it may take a bit of an effort to get underneath the outside layers of a person we should decide if that is what we want to do, and if we make that choice we should be prepared to work with what we find. We may not always like what we’ve found, but just because we’ve uncovered something that is not appealing doesn’t mean that we should stop our efforts to find what we sensed when we decided to commit to moving forward. We may find that we don’t want to consider the other person a friend or don’t want to let them know us in an intimate way, but we should continue to explore what is underneath the behavior that we don’t like so that we won’t make such a commitment in the future. It is better to understand what we don’t like as well as what we do so that we can make an informed analysis about ourselves while learning about others. Isn’t it best to look underneath the surface of a person, especially ourselves, before passing judgment?