We all like to think we are part of something, whether it be family, community, religious group, workplace, athletic team; the list goes on and on. With belonging to a group and that feeling comfort in a place, physical or mental, we can approach our lives more calmly and with greater confidence that if we feel out-of-place and unconnected. We gain from being assured that we have backup in uncomfortable or confrontational situations, that we have support in times of loss or grief, that we have resources to turn to when we seek knowledge. There are times though when we can’t escape feeling out-of-place, even in our group, through an accident of timing, a need that can only be satisfied in some other place, or by request from another for one reason or another. This is not always a negative place to be and can also be quite positive. When we feel out-of-place we look for ways to make ourselves more comfortable. This can come through observation and learning about where we find ourselves, it can come from interacting with people we normally have nothing to do with, it can come from an inner strength and ability to adapt that we didn’t know we had were or capable of. These are all good traits to have for they help us to be flexible and open to more than just our own views and opinions. Doesn’t openness and flexibility allow for more comfort and peace among groups?