One of the hardest things that we must do is to recognize that we will not be the best, or even good, at everything we do or attempt to do. We may succeed for a moment or an event or two, but high achievement or success will not accompany each and every desire. When we realize that all we can do is the best we can do, and that may not win us the gold medal, we should try to accept it and turn our attention and our efforts to arenas where we know we can shine. Taking a good look ourselves and objectively assessing our positives and negatives is a good way to avoid painful and embarrassing situations. More importantly, it is a way to feel good about ourselves and our endeavors. Setting yourself up for a brief moment of fame or acclaim, one that we know can’t possibly last, is a good way to foster low self-esteem and to begin asking yourself damaging questions. I did it once, why can’t I do it again? He/she has the same schooling/training/background as I do, why can’t I succeed like they do? I want it, why can’t I have it? Shouldn’t we focus on our own abilities rather than focus on someone else’s?