When we pre-judge we sometimes become defensive and belligerent before-the-fact, before anything has been said or has happened in an encounter. We may feel threatened by the person or task we’ll soon be facing, we may feel that our loved ones have been or are in danger of being hurt in some way, or we may be making assumptions about a person or thing with little or no evidence that our assumptions are even be close to what is actually true.about the person or situation. It may seem that starting out defensive or belligerent will protect us in some way; what it really does is keep us close-minded and unwilling to receive new or different information than that we already have. This then closes the door to learning and ultimately, closes the door to potential enjoyment, wonder, and a greater knowledge of oneself and the world. True, sometimes it is better to be prepared to unpleasant situations, but starting out in a negative way precludes any kind of positive outcome. Approaching situations with a neutral attitude allows one to move in any direction while at the same time does not initially cut off any avenues of agreement or a positive encounter. Besides, isn’t it easier to be pleasant than not?