It seems that one of the goals most of us have is to be close to another human being, so close to another that we are inextricably entwined; so close that we say that we are soul mates: one soul with two bodies. This relationship is not necessarily between lovers, many people feel that closeness as friends, as parent and child, or even between themselves and a pet. Although this is a wonderful way to feel and we feel envious when we see it manifested in others, we must realize that no matter how we try we will not always be on the same level, we will be working together. For one thing it is just not possible. No matter how much we would like to be as close as that to another continually, we have other obligations to sustain and must tend to them – but we can depend upon our other to support us and encourage us with those obligations. We have goals and aspirations that differ from our other’s – but our other can understand those goals and desires and help to direct our efforts. Crucially, our other can understands and cherish us while maintaining their own, separate self, that self that drew us to them in the first place. We may not always agree with our other or choose to do the same things, but though we may be on opposite ends of the shelf we are encompassing the same things. Isn’t it right to maintain the self as a gift?