We can and have glanced at or watched situations in which someone has taken over another’s territory physically, mentally, or emotionally. We assume that we will never find ourselves in such a position; but we may very well be wrong about that and find ourselves there in spite of ourselves. Those who co-opt others’ places, intellectual property, or friends and family tend to insinuate themselves slowly and carefully into their victims’ lives so that each intrusive step taken doesn’t seem intrusive. Barely noticeable as those steps may be, they still add up and soon we may find ourselves out in the cold and powerless in more ways than one. Frequently there is a slight aura of discomfort emanating from people who poach, a hardly noticeable whiff of overconfidence and entitlement that can be easily waved away as we tell ourselves that it isn’t real and isn’t this person really a good, kind friend? It is here that we must tap our own confidence and have enough of it to trust our own instincts and gut feelings. After all, that’s part of what instincts and hunches are for: to help protect us and warn us danger in its many forms. Acting on those instincts, particularly when being co-opted, shouldn’t be a matter of deliberation and hesitation. If we can’t trust ourselves to act in our own interests, who can we trust to do so?