While asserting ourselves, carving out a place for ourselves, or pursuing our goals and dreams with a vengeance we sometimes forget that there may be a softer, gentler way of achieving the outcome we desire. It appears, and very often is, a cutthroat, dog-eat-dog world we live in that will leap on and exploit any weakness or hesitation perceived. The most common, instant reaction to those actions is to attempt to take the offensive route and seize the advantage for ourselves. This may not be the most efficacious route to take; slowing the pace of events, so that actions and reactions need not occur rapidly, can allow for real strategizing instead of reactive tactics. Moderation can be a vital tool in the push and shove of academic, professional, and interpersonal conflicts; when you give a little instead of instantly reacting defensively or offensively, using quiet language and really listen to your opponent you’ll find your stress level reduced and, incidentally, find less aggressive behavior aimed in your direction. If you don’t respond to words or actions designed to trigger your anger, fear, or resentment but remain outwardly calm and relaxed you will have taken the wind out of your opposite’s fiery sails. Isn’t it worth trying to walk more softly, if only for your own peace of mind?