One would like to think that any guest invited into their home would be welcome. Unfortunately that is not always the case. Through a sense of obligation or due to a need or because of circumstances beyond our control we must sometimes invite those in who we would not normally choose to spend time with. Thus it is that much nicer when we can invite those we care for and are interested in into our homes and lives. They are truly welcome and we find comfort and a give-and-take that is beneficial to us all that is absent in those encounters we do not choose freely. The welcome guest also provides much appreciated validation that your home is a comfortable and pleasant place to be, because of the inhabitants and because of the place itself; feeling welcomed is a boon to the guest that can add to both your enjoyment and theirs. Though it isn’t fun and stimulating, your home can be a place to dilute sadness or yours and your guest’s negative or tragic thoughts and feelings.Since these feelings are bound to occur at some time, it is good to have a safe place to express them and your compassionate welcoming and place to air feeling is a wonderful gift to give. Your home should be yours and the people welcomed chosen only by you, no matter how diverse they may be. Shouldn’t you be the one to choose who you welcome, not duty manufactured circumstances?
Even the most hidden from view, inconspicuous things can have great impact on others and the world. Some may be unhappy with their inconspicuous role and chafe at their seeming unimportance while it would be better, and would help them, to realize that even the smallest things and their smallest efforts are important. Others do not wish to have an impact and only want to make themselves more inconspicuous, want only to have no effect on the world and want their lives to be lived unnoticed. This is a shame since everyone and everything cannot escape having some impact in some way and it would be best to optimize that impact. There is a group who wish never to be inconspicuous and will do everything in their power to display their effect on the world; they tend to overlook some of the best things the world has to offer as they bask in their own glory. A balance can be made, however: one can remain inconspicuous while learning about a new idea, one can be conspicuous when teaching; one can be inconspicuous when offering charity, but conspicuous when soliciting for it; one can be inconspicuous in leadership, but conspicuous about advocacy. Don’t you think being inconspicuous has its place?
For the most part visitors who are family and friends are welcome, with notice or without. However acquaintances and known-of, but not known associates, neighbors, club members, and children’s friends who visit without prior arrangement are to be viewed askance. When welcomed into our homes they may bring something positive into our day but more likely bring possible negative influences with them, mental or physical, that we have not planned for or merely bring some inconvenience. Where and how we live and with whom we choose to associate is a vital part of our self-identity and feelings of self-worth. We may choose have our front door be a revolving one, but we have the right to choose who revolves in and out that door. Undue influence by unknown and unwelcomed persons can tend to loosen our hold on who we are or can be, and to wrest the control over our own environment out of our hands. A stranger or even a partially known stranger may infect us with a disease that is insidious and that could feel quite pleasant for a time. Our homes should be a delight and a refuge, not place for malevolence or ignorance to run rampant. We have a responsibility to ourselves and our chosen loved ones to evaluate possible intruders and refuse to allow them entry if we are convinced that they may harm us, intentionally or not. Shouldn’t our homes be our own castles?