Hopes and dreams are good things; it’s good to have something to work for and something to long for, however we should not pin our hopes and dreams on things we know we’ll never be able to grasp, or that we really don’t want to grasp in the firs place. Sometimes we all fall victim to the conscious or unconscious urgings of others to follow along or mimic their actions, to get to the bugs that taste better for them, but not necessarily for ourselves. And sometimes we become so familiar with, and because of that familiarity blind to, what we have that it has lost lustre and excitement, it’s sense of the new and the novel. If we do travel, one way or another, to that greener grass we are likely to find that we’ve landed right back where we’ve come from. Because, for the most part, we know that no matter where we go, there we are and all our positives and negatives come with, or follow, us. Unless we’re making the choice to move elsewhere for reasons unconnected to our wants, it is best to step back and take stock of what we have, what we’ll have to leave, and what there to realistically expect from the ‘better’ side. Shouldn’t we seek local satisfaction for our needs before rushing off somewhere, anywhere else?
In some form or another we all need money, and use it whether we want to or not. We may not want to accept that we’re bound to it, but given that we live in a human society we must admit and accept that we are bound to it. There are many ways to define money; we can speculate and deal in hard currency or cash, in credit and debit cards, in valuing things such as land, minerals, and in predictions and hopes for future funds. We can even exchange theoretical money for theoretical money with a name: bit coin. All of this is in aid of making an exchange of goods or services between people willing to make the exchange. This can also be accomplished using barter; this encourages local and, some think, a much more fair and equitable economy. A problem that can arise with these methods of commerce is that people tend to apply these principles to everything in their lives, not only to items that can be acquired in no other way. Most inappropriately, people tend to put a commercial value on emotions, feelings, and their relationships between one another. For emotions, feelings, instincts, loves, cannot be bought or sold, can they?
It can be a fantastic feeling when you recognize that you in step with, in tune with another being. the feeling of joint feelings and goals lends a strength and purpose to all you are striving for. When you can exchange a glance and know that the next step taken will effortlessly be in step it conveys a sense or all being right with the world. Especially invigorating and satisfying is when those feelings carry over to times when you are not with the other. There is some danger in letting these most sought-after and affecting feelings absorb you entirely, though. When you are completely absorbed some of the effects of your happiness can directly affect the other parts of your life: you can lose sight of the fact that there are others in the world who need or want to interact with you, you can lose sight of the fact that you have other responsibilities, you can lose sight of the fact that you are, indeed, a separate entity and cannot lose your personality permanently. In the end you will always be an individual and you do need to hold yourself separate enough to able to enjoy and admire the other’s individuality as well. Being in step is wonderful, but not constantly, right?
Many of us find that it is easier to give up on what we would like rather than persisting in the way to our goals. Sometimes it feels easier to avoid a confrontation, sometimes it just feels like too much effort emotionally or physically, sometimes we just don’t want what we’ve chosen as a goal. Once we’ve chosen our goals, though, and started on the path to achieving them it can only make us feel worse about ourselves to let them go by the wayside. We can certainly rationalize our failure to continue, but we will still know that really have not given the journey our best shot. If we start out assuring ourselves that we will persist through thick and thin, and that we will not scorn help if it is offered, we have a much better chance of doing and completing what we set out to do. This may be easier for some goals than others, but the concept is the same and the outcomes can be the same whether we’ve made a goal to step outside for a moment each day or to write the definitive history of mankind. Of course, we must have carefully thought out our goals before attempting them. Don’t you feel better about yourself when you’ve completed what you’ve set out to do?
Sometimes we wish for an ability or a skill we do not have and that is completely out of our reach or capability to reach. It is just not possible for the human body to breathe under water unaided or to fly unaided as much as we wish and dream they may be. Thus it can be destructive for us to try to reach such unrealistic goals, at the very least it can lead to despair and a negative feeling about one’s authentic capabilities. When we continue to crave an ability that we know is an impossibility we are also ignoring and denying the capabilities we do have. If we deny these capabilities we are denying others out best attributes and more significantly we are denying ourselves esteem, pride in our accomplishments, and the benefits that come with efforts directed in a realistic direction. Of course it can be fun to dream of being capable of impossible things, but we also must be able to wistfully smile and move on to something more in line with our reasonable goals and aspirations. It can be fun to share impossible dreams with others and listen to theirs; the support found just by sharing and knowing that everyone has something they wish they were capable of and can never be can make reality much more attractive. It’s better to take advantage of your own capabilities than to dream of impossibilities, isn’t it?
Not only is it important to keep all your ducks in a row, but it is extremely important to just where they are. If you find yourself in a place where you are whole and contented and at peace, but you don’t know how you got there or how you were motivated to follow a goal there, then no matter how straight and even and beautiful your ducks are, they won’t be of any use to you. Once you’ve gained knowledge and strength, maturity and spiritual peace you must not turn your back on your ducks since without attention and nurturing they may fall out of line or wither and become malnourished. Defining and maintaining pursuit of goals, continuing to be curious and inquisitive, and staying with a spiritual path can all help your ducks grow straight and stay comfortably full. The most important part of duck care and maintenance is to pay attention – without paying attention to your inner ducks it is easy to lose your way on the path to your goals, achievements, and comfort; without orderliness you may find yourself flailing around ineffectively and losing any ground you may have previously gained. Don’t you want to have your ducks in a row?
No matter how much we might try, there are some times we cannot achieve what we have set out to do. Whether or not we like the outcome, we must deal with not obtaining what we have striven for. This can be difficult when we truly believe that we deserve to have that which we’ve taken the time and effort to strive for. We know, of course we know, that there are things we can dream about but that will be forever out of our grasp. We should not waste our time, emotions, and physical effort on these craving these emotional, physical, and personal things even though they may seem made for us and our goals in life. As an exercise in futility they are wonderful, but they might be taken as an exercise in self-restraint and as a reality check that can direct us back to the attainable. The attainable is not second best, it is a goal, or series of goals, that can give us challenges, but also much more satisfaction than yearning after unrealistic goals. It is also not to say to stop striving at all, just to objectively look at how you’ve constructed your goals and to come to conclusions that are not the equivalent of grasping at bubbles, for they will burst. Aren’t realistic and challenging goals more satisfactory to achieve than ‘pie-in-the-sky’ goals you cannot achieve?