Both beginnings and endings happen within our selves all the time. The balance between welcoming the new and learning from the old is more often than not very difficult to maintain. Much of the time we don’t maintain that balance and when we don’t we are losing or missing out on a lot life has to offer. We become so busy with making a living or gathering achievements or serving the greater good that we leave the care of our young to others and refuse we have time to listen to the older. Surviving in a totally separate and isolated generation is not healthy or satisfying to us and it is surely not for the younger or older generations who are unable to connect with us. Loss of connection with other generations ultimately leads to an inability to connect with our own and, eventually, with ourselves. When we lose our ability to connect with others and with ourselves we are living in an unreal world, our decision-making becomes compromised, and we become unhappy and feel worthless and isolated. The remedy is so easy and painless and obvious that we can miss the opportunity to connect and continue to wallow in woe. The remedy is to speak with others of different generations and listen, don’t merely nod and continue with your own thoughts; listen and learn what they have to offer. You can also reply and institute an real conversation. Wouldn’t you rather create or sustain contact with all generations than stagnate alone with only your own?
Aging occurs throughout one’s life, indeed it occurs all day, every day. One tends to think of aging as something that only happens in one’s life from middle age to older age, then even older aged. Yet we do most of our aging the most quickly when we are quite young and very young. The growth of the body and of the brain is most rapid when we are babies and toddlers while, generally, the least change happens when we are older. We must know this subliminally since birthdays are celebrated the most elaborately when we are younger and birthdays tend to be forgotten, except the decade years, when we are older. The visible effects of aging on the body include changes in size and function on both ends of the spectrum and the visible changes from aging in the facial features present similarly. However, aging in the more elderly is treated with veneration and there is hardly any or no appreciation for aging in younger or growing people. Granted, in many cultures the major milestones of growth and celebrations for youth merging into adulthood are elaborate and community wide; these rites of passage do not hold the homage to or defer to the emerging adults in the way that many of the elderly are considered wise, with an unearthly spiritual superiority. Even in Western cultures, where older people are often ignored and shoved to the side, there remain fairy tales and old stories recognizing the wisdom and wealth of knowledge older people possess . Also, in Western culture, growing children are often ignored and shoved to the side, left to themselves or to caretakers to raise. It seems that aging is something of a bad word and negative concept in the West. The idea of change in general is anathema; there is, rather, a need to conform to a model of unchanging and inhuman physical and mental characteristics that has led to a very peculiar sense of how to treat members of our own society. I would think that transitions at all times for all ages should be acknowledged and celebrated, wouldn’t you?