It can be disconcerting, to say the least, when you find someone has entered your home uninvited. It may not be a burglar or another bent on damaging or taking your belongings, it might be someone you know quite well, or think you do. If you have not specifically invited a person to enter your home at any time you should be able to expect that you will remain undisturbed until you choose to invite others to join you. Most people would or do feel uncomfortable if they are discovered while asleep, or showering, or in other intimate positions, and were confronted with someone they were not expecting making themselves at home. It is a violation of a person’s personal living space and right to privacy to treat another person’s space as your own; if you do so on a regular basis and not during an emergency you should take a look at your standards closely. If you have been invaded on a regular basis you should take a look at the messages you are sending out and re-evaluate your availability to others and your lack of desire for a private place of your own. We all have need of a private space we can call our own, a place where we can be who we want to be. We all deserve to have a place for communion with only ourselves. Do you believe we have the right to protect our own homes from disrespect?
Grooming is necessary if only to maintain one’s health. We can see examples of grooming in our homes and just about everywhere else. All of the animal kingdom except man has no choice but to perform its grooming activities outside or in rudimentary shelters. Sometimes this behavior is watched and studied by man, or at least watched, commented on, and photographed. What people don’t seem to realize is that they, too, are watched while grooming in public. Or perhaps they just don’t care that their personal rituals may have negative (or too positive) effects on others. This is their privilege, there are no rules and regulations regarding public shaving, plucking, or applying makeup that I know of, but it is distracting to others and is very dangerous when people are engaging in grooming behavior while operating a vehicle of some kind. Yes, I’ve seen people dressing and doing their hair while ostensibly steering a boat. One shudders to think what aircraft pilots may do. Public groomers seem to me to be very self-involved and have very little time for the world around them; they have time only for the small circle surrounding them and their immediate interest. This may be unfair to the surreptitious lipstick/lip balm applier or to the person who stealthily runs a comb through their hair, but one can tell these people are trying to be discreet and not to make a production out of grooming necessities. Public grooming is sure to be no issue for many people, and it is not a major issue; it points up the differences between personality types and may actually be useful in defining a person’s personality and proclivities. Used as a tool that way, the extent and frequency of grooming publicly may really be a game-changer. Public grooming or private grooming – do you have a preference?