If not already, then hopefully at some point there will appear someone in your life who will ask you what you’re doing; and they’ll ask why you’re doing it. People will ask these questions of you and others because they observe you and/or them acting with purpose and behaving with commitment to something (anything); they may be curious about what the secret is to finding a purpose and sticking with it. It becomes very difficult to continue along a path you are following unless you have a reason to do so; you can manufacture a reason after the fact, but doing that is usually unsatisfactory since you haven’t actually defined or completed a specified goal, you’ve only appeared busy to others, but mostly to yourself. If appearing busy is your goal, then you will accomplish it easily; there is not much effort involved in running around in circles. If you have something in mind that you really want to accomplish, then your purpose defines itself and you will have no difficulty with motivation. It is those who create thoughtfully designed goals that show the visible and stimulating purpose that others find so attractive. And aren’t these purposeful people attractive as well?
Sometimes we shake our heads and look around and wonder how happened to get where we are. Sometimes this is fine: we’ve had a chance to turn off our brains, relax, and drift with the flow, secure that we have no worries at the moment and won’t have them when we arrive wherever we’ve drifted either. We may even make some contacts that we will want to keep up with when we return to the regular rhythm of our days and that may become friends. However, although we may become relaxed, and lax, about our thinking and feeling, we cannot do so to the detriment of our usual lives; inevitably our usual lives are connected in one way or another with others’ lives; inevitably we must clothe and feed ourselves, and our family, if we have one. We must remain responsible for ourselves and our livelihood. So, while we must let go, drift, and unwind for a while; we must also hold on, stay on course, and wind up as well. The challenge is to maintain a balance between the two, to be able to recognize when drifting is called for and when buckling down becomes the priority. Do you think you have a handle on that balance?
Details, both major and minor things, are or may be obscured by fogs of differing origins. Fog is difficult to see through and to make one’s way through and can be very frustrating and even dangerous. Or it can be a beautiful and enchanting place to be. It can be cold and dank or warm and soft. It can conceal or reveal things of importance to us. When we’re lost in a fog we can approach our dilemma in various ways depending upon our desires or upon the goals we have set for ourselves. We may choose to use obscurity as a way of hiding from others and the places we find ourselves. We may choose to obscure our own movements on the chessboard of life from others, even ourselves. We may move through fog using it as a nurturing form of bathing to emerge into the light enriched and invigorated. No matter how we choose to use the many varieties of obscurity it is important to know that obscurity or being obscured is not always a bad thing but can be a tool to be used to help one’s healing and growth. A license to be left in the background is a license to relax, to release tension, to be revitalized in private. Having private time is another one of our basic needs and one that is too often ignored or forgotten. When one learns to utilize obscurity one invariably finds private time to put to good use. As long as one does not hide behind obscurity to avoid problems or confrontations one can be sure to find a laugh and some hope even while observing the chaos and uncertainty one has retreated from for a short time. So doesn’t obscurity sound like a fine place to be from time to time?
One may know an area very well, even have strong impressions and know the temper of a place. But that place may not always seem familiar and safe and you may feel uncomfortable venturing out at times. This may alter your feelings for that place and you may find yourself rarely, if ever, venturing out at all. On the other hand you may find that your cozy home provides too much comfort and you must get out and explore or become stir-crazy. When you do manage to emerge an adventure is just the thing to make home a good place to come back to. You may venture out into your familiar places or take a chance on someplace new and exciting. Whatever you choose you might feel a sense of anticipation and excitement at what you may find in your travels, long and short. It is important that you do not have specific expectations, even if you have specific plans, as those are more than likely to come to nothing, or very little. Venturing out should provide you with new sights, sounds, tastes, and touches and with new feelings and emotions about them. You could also go out with a specific purpose in mind, but don’t expect complete success, expect to find your undertaking to be an experiment more than anything else. If you feel apprehensive or uncomfortable, but not unsafe, it is a good idea to continue risk your comfort and allay your apprehensions by continuing with your plans. After all, how can you learn and expand your horizons without experimenting with adventure? You could poke a hole in whatever your apprehensions may be and crawl through the hole into an even more varied and interesting world. Besides, it’s fun to explode some of the less flattering theories you may have formed about yourself. Venturing out can be a real adventure and is more likely to be so the more positive you are about it. Does a venture into adventure tickle your fancy?
There are many types of camouflage in use today, primarily outside the human purview. The use of camouflage remains effective in the animal and plant kingdoms and is extremely versatile. It can be and is used for opposite purposes by the same organism at different times; it can also be used to hide in plain sight. This amazing use of adaptation and evolution has now been developed by human beings since we discovered that it can be applied to many of our activities and speech strategies. We, too, have used camouflage to hunt and to hide, there is a time for both; but it is seldom, if ever, used to remain neutral. While the barracuda hides in the eel grass to wait for prey and to hide from predators we use our constructed camouflage to do the same thing in theaters of war. But war and hunting are not the only human activities in which camouflage is used. We apply all and sundry manner of makeup and clothing styles to advertise our age-group, social status, educational level, and sexual availability, to name a few. There are also speech patterns we use to fit ourselves into our chosen group; and posture and presentation to solidify us in our chosen niche. To change our niche we need only change these outward signs of our identity and we can ‘pass’ in another group, at least for a while and maybe much longer. Generally we choose these niches rather early in life so find ourselves defined by ourselves and others fairly early on as well. These definitions can be two-edged swords and either help us or hinder us in our quests to strengthen our position in the niche we call home or attempt to redefine ourselves in another mold. however when we define ourselves using specific camouflage we tend to lose sight of our own true selves. Would you rather blow smoke in people’s eyes, use your own unique camouflage, to keep your true characteristics or wear a camouflage ‘uniform’ that provides your identity for you?