Toys are a fine thing to have, or to have the use of, for relaxation, learning, letting off steam and many other things. We all like some toys better than others, but a new toy is fun to experiment with, an old, familiar toy is a comfort and a friend, and a desired, but not yet acquired toy can be an incentive and a challenge. What we must remember is that objects are toys, living beings are not, and should never be considered so. If you damage, physically or emotionally, a living being you, or they, may not be able to repair that damage. When you purposely damage a non-living object, you may not be able to repair it, but the only living thing you may have damaged would have been yourself. This is no good thing either, but is less damaging to more parties, and may prompt you into a greater sense of responsibility than you displayed previously. We must decide when something can be considered a toy and when something is very definitely not a toy. Then we can make the choice whether to play games with an appropriate toy or risk damaging something that is not a toy at all. Would you choose not to choose, or would you choose to think before acting?
One of the hardest things that we must do is to recognize that we will not be the best, or even good, at everything we do or attempt to do. We may succeed for a moment or an event or two, but high achievement or success will not accompany each and every desire. When we realize that all we can do is the best we can do, and that may not win us the gold medal, we should try to accept it and turn our attention and our efforts to arenas where we know we can shine. Taking a good look ourselves and objectively assessing our positives and negatives is a good way to avoid painful and embarrassing situations. More importantly, it is a way to feel good about ourselves and our endeavors. Setting yourself up for a brief moment of fame or acclaim, one that we know can’t possibly last, is a good way to foster low self-esteem and to begin asking yourself damaging questions. I did it once, why can’t I do it again? He/she has the same schooling/training/background as I do, why can’t I succeed like they do? I want it, why can’t I have it? Shouldn’t we focus on our own abilities rather than focus on someone else’s?
Need can overtake us upon occasion so strongly that we attempt to do things or to acquire things we would normally leave alone. If, however, we find something wholly irresistible, we may take a chance and gamble that we will come out on top of our game and end up with what we pursued as an essential need at the time. There are needs other than a need for a specific thing too; we have a need for beauty, for strength, for a break; the catalog of needs is a never-ending one and each individual’s catalog should not be ignored. Our needs and wants make up the core of our personality and can be both positive and negative. The negative needs should not be ignored but should be recognized, worked with, and transformed to positive needs with a positive outcome. This transformation can help one to recognize more positive needs that can be acted upon and used for positive good for oneself as well as for others. Having a recognized need has the power to be used as a spur to oneself to make the necessary effort ro recognize it and that example of effort may spur others on to do the same. But the recognition of a need can be problematic; you may simply feel uncomfortable or certain that you meant to do something or have the niggling sensation at the back of your brain that says something is not quite done. Slowing down enough to really take a look at those feelings may bring you enlightenment about a new or old and unrecognized need. Stopping to evaluate that need and fulfilling it can lead you to an enduring satisfaction or to realize that your focus must be removed from that particular need. Rather than indiscriminately acting on all our needs we would be best served by allowing ourselves time to reflect. Would you really like all your needs to be met?
Sweeping is not only about cleaning house, and a broom is not the only thing that can be swept with. To sweep is an all-encompassing term that includes everything from sweeping dirt away to sweeping clouds away or being swept away in a storm. The term has inundated many aspects of our language, is appropriate to it, and it is understood whenever it is used. We can be swept off our feet by a stronger foe, or by circumstances beyond our control, or by the winds of change. Amongst all this sweeping it seems that we should be able to have a bit more control over our lives and the situations so that we’re not swept away by everything. If we allow ourselves to be swept away easily we’ll find we haven’t got idea one of where we’ve ended up or why we’ve ended up there. We can’t always avoid being swept away by something but we should know how to try to stop that strong and repeated pressure. Having a strong sense of self and direction can help with the aim of following our own paths. Recognizing the beginning of a sweeping motion will help as well; for then we can react against the motion if we so desire. We do want to be swept away sometimes, especially if we recognize where we’re being swept and wholeheartedly want to go there. We want the sensations of a new love, or the feeling of success and fulfillment from a job well done, or the satisfaction of completing a task that has compelled and eaten up all our time. We wouldn’t want to be swept away by a mob, or caught up in a friend’s vicious wrangle, or be unable to stop playing when on a losing streak while gambling. A sense of balance and a sense of self is really all that is needed to find a path through the brooms reaching toward us every day, and to make our own decisions about being swept. Is holding your own broomstick more appealing than succumbing to others’?