Toys are a fine thing to have, or to have the use of, for relaxation, learning, letting off steam and many other things. We all like some toys better than others, but a new toy is fun to experiment with, an old, familiar toy is a comfort and a friend, and a desired, but not yet acquired toy can be an incentive and a challenge. What we must remember is that objects are toys, living beings are not, and should never be considered so. If you damage, physically or emotionally, a living being you, or they, may not be able to repair that damage. When you purposely damage a non-living object, you may not be able to repair it, but the only living thing you may have damaged would have been yourself. This is no good thing either, but is less damaging to more parties, and may prompt you into a greater sense of responsibility than you displayed previously. We must decide when something can be considered a toy and when something is very definitely not a toy. Then we can make the choice whether to play games with an appropriate toy or risk damaging something that is not a toy at all. Would you choose not to choose, or would you choose to think before acting?
There are times when we just don’t want to hurry, we want to slow our neck-breaking pace to be able to look around, we want to take our time and feel comfortable. we don’t want to go to sleep right now, we want to wander around and relax; doing, reading, or thinking just one more thing. Dawdling is usually associated with children who lag when you are trying to get somewhere, pull your hand while they try to examine something to the side, or whine about going to bed. Though it doesn’t seem so dawdling is most often a function of curiosity, not of laziness or whining dislike of whatever is to hand. If we weren’t curious about the world around us or inside us we wouldn’t be tempted to slow down and observe things closely enough to understand them and ponder them in a leisurely way. It can be a real pleasure to relax with one’s own thoughts and not be hurry, hurry, hurrying to accomplish so much in the limited time we believe have, but it can also be difficult to slow down. It’s odd that a lot of the time we must make an effort to look around and truly see what we are looking at and allow ourselves to have complete thoughts about it. Don’t you think dawdling could help us slow down a bit and observe a bit more?
When it is time to take some time away, to have a vacation, to rest, relax, and rejuvenate we tend to gravitate toward activities that we enjoy and to spend time with people we enjoy being around. But part of what makes a vacation a vacation or that makes time away revitalizing is to spend at least part of it not doing anything. Time spent unfocused, not striving toward any goal, no matter how much we enjoy the physical or mental engagement, is as essential to our well-being as focused relaxation. This drifting can be as difficult to achieve as activities more demanding, yet one should not avoid some passive time, just for oneself, if one is hoping for complete relief from the stresses and obligations of everyday life. Doesn’t that make sense to you?
I’m off to drift, unfocused, on the tide for a couple of weeks. I’ll be in touch when I return.
All of us have gone astray at times and found ourselves lost in an unkown sea, adrift on the tide with no real idea where we are or how to get to where we meant to be going.This can be a good thing if we have the time and inclination to explore our surroundings, but sometimes we must be somewhere at a specific time or do something by a specific date and cannot afford to be drifting lazily along. When it is possible to spend some time drifting, it is wise to allow oneself no control over the direction one is headed and to take events as they occur. This is quite relaxing and allows emotions and feelings to come to the surface that are normally buried beneath mundane or troublesome emotions and feelings. There are a number people who find it quite difficult to enjoy such unstructured times and are very uncomfortable with the loss of their own initiative and their ability to make choices. This is a shame since one can find initiative and decide which choices we’re going to make by letting go of control and drifting, letting whatever comes to the surface show itself in its own time; thus it will be fully assimilated and plans will be forthcoming. Now, if you’re adrift on a lee shore in the fog with torn sails and a broken engine you must act a bit more quickly, go into crisis mode: evaluate, plan, and act without pausing to reflect so much that you are lost. When it is not possible to reflect or ask for input it is helpful to have spent some less urgent time adrift so that all you really need to do is speed up your mental (and physical) action. Rehearsal is a good thing in that it prepares and teaches your mind and body to react in those rehearsed ways instead of having to work everything out. Reacting quickly and getting oneself out of trouble is also something one can be proud of, if you didn’t get yourself into the trouble in the first place. Adrift under pressure and adrift lazily can both be positive experiences and satisfy different mental and emotional needs. Would you like to see yourself adrift in both ways?