One hardly notices when evening begins fall in most cases. This is a real shame since the transformation from day to evening time, coming night is a fascinating and beautiful thing to watch and appreciate. It is also a time for thinking and wondering and allow awe to overcome our senses. As the evening progresses, the sky expands and one can feel one’s mind lose its conventional boundaries and, if we allow it, imagination can take over our dreary and worn out minds and welcome beauty and wonder in for at least a few moments. We can feel we’re expanding as the coming night sky is asserting itself. Not a bad place to be in.
Many times when we are in free fall in our lives, when it seems everything is going wrong and you can do nothing right, the choice is made to throw up our hands in despair and let nature take its course. We react to whatever happens just enough to keep staggering on, but not much more. Unfortunately this can become a habit and a despairing and depressed mood may be come what is considered. If we allow this to happen we no longer have the capacity to enjoy a surprise, a sunny day, or even things as important as our children, besides showcasing a very negative approach to life. There are always choices that can be made to avoid these kinds of pitfalls: if we can’t get out of the free fall we’re experiencing, we can choose to begin to fly a different path instead, we are free to choose free flight. Like a skater during the free skate part of their competition, we may be constrained some of the time, but we are not constrained all the time. Instead of allowing constraint and the ingrained habit of follow other peoples’ paths, we truly can choose to be ourselves and hack out our own paths. It may be difficult indeed to do so, but isn’t it worth it?
When there is something that someone wants, and wants badly, the general impulse it to go after it with everything you’ve got. The trouble is that though effort and persistence are needed to achieve your aim, too much trying or too much doggedness can lead to failure; and this can lead to the loss of excitement and healthy challenge that can make you truly excel and meet or exceed your expectations of yourself. A key to achieving ultimate success is to know yourself and your strengths and weaknesses, then to set goals and create your expectations within your ability to accomplish them without lending too much credence to others’ opinions. Only you can make any close to accurate judgements regarding your ability or lack of ability to contend with or reach for a specific thing and only you can make choices about what is success, what is almost success, and what has been a good try. If you bite off more than you can chew it is generally because you haven’t listened to what you really have to say to yourself or because you are acting on impulse, not giving considered thought to your choice. Will you be thinking before making any resolutions this year?
There are times we feel that we don’t know a familiar place at all: we don’t know the landscape, we don’t know the language, we don’t even know those who are or who have been closest to us. We feel a disconnect from the reality we have come to know as our own and can’t, for a time, sometimes a long time, bridge the gap that separate us from all that is comfortable and that used to feel just right. This can be caused by many things: small, short-lived things like fatigue or intense concentration, or by longer acting things such as an absence or ideological clash. For the shorter-lived things one generally needs only to wait and continue along one’s regular path and normalcy will reassert itself sooner or later. For longer term feelings of dislocation one must take a look at one’s core beliefs and evaluate any changes in actions or the direction one is, consciously or unconsciously, now going. It is good to check to see if your companions’ language or behavior has begun to mystify you or if your behavior or language has begun to mystify them. When one has begun to feel like a stranger in formerly familiar surroundings one can only take to heart what one has learned and move on to the next stage, don’t you think?
Some of us like to live on the edge, some of us like to avoid it, some of us will do what we must to keep the edge at bay, but will nevertheless confront it when necessary, and some of us don’t believe there is an edge at all. Much as some or all of us would like to deny that there is an edge waiting for all of us, it nevertheless is there. You could be a risk-taker always living on the edge of physical dmaage or worse or you could be always living on the edge of financial or social disaster. You could be shy and retiring and always living on the edge of discovery or ernest and studious living on the edge of discovery as well. You could be overconfident and brash, not recognizing the edge in front of your face and either hurting yourself and others or missing the chance of a lifetime. We all are living on some sort of edge; the key to taking a successful leap or safely stepping back is the recognition of our own individual ledges, then making a conscious decision regarding our further action or inaction. This effort will contribute to our self-knowledge and can lead to appreciation of the kinds of qualities, positive or negative, we possess. Isn’t it better to know ourselves than to be surprised by our own actions?
There are times when a person, an object, or a situation is coming at you and you really aren’t ready to face or confront it just then.
The only viable option in those circumstances is to make for your bolt-hole, and stay there, until you are prepared to deal with your nemesis or it has gone away or is no longer so threatening or demanding. No one can possibly be ready for any and everything at all times, especially if there are things that frighten you or discourage you to the extent that you feel you have no choices. The best thing is to take some time to evaluate these things or people and make a thoroughly thought-out decision regarding them, but when time takes you unaware you must find a place to make the time to do so. Having a place to retreat while you are in a familiar and comfortable place is relatively easy, finding a bolt-hole in an unfamiliar place is more difficult and should be planned upon arrival in the event you are overtaken by an unexpected event.
Most might say that running or hiding is not an honorable or decent way to deal with a person or situation. On the other hand, one should always be prepared when difficulties are forthcoming and one’s preparations may not yet be complete. In which case being aware of one’s surroundings and making the choice to flee and fight another day, one should be sure of a place to flee to. Shouldn’t one plan for escape to evaluate in advance?
Every one of us goes through one stage or more of awkwardness. We may not like it, we may not notice it, or we may care too much what others think while we’re going through that stage. However, none of us can get out of going through an awkward phase or two. Looks or movements, all parts of these stages can be devastating to us if we allow them to be. They are probably most devastating to us when we are younger since it seems the awkwardness will never end and every minute spent looking or moving awkwardly is an embarrassment to us, even though others may not perceive our embarrassment or even our awkwardness. While one can not move if one is feeling especially awkward moving in what should be natural and easy ways, it is more difficult to hide the excessive largeness of teeth, ill-fitting glasses, hair growing in or out in strange ways. With a bit of pride and self-confidence we can live and grow through these experiences and perhaps learn more empathy and sympathy for others. For once we’ve experienced these thoughts and feelings of inadequacy we may more easily detect others going through some of the same things. Once we’ve escaped from an awkward phase shouldn’t we be more sympathetic to others suffering through their own?